April 2013
3 posts
The morning cup of coffee has an exhilaration about it which the cheering influence of the afternoon or evening cup of tea cannot be expected to reproduce. ~ Oliver Wendell Holmes, 1891
What is a Goddess?
“A goddess is a woman who emerges from deep within herself. She is a woman who has honestly explored her darkness and learned to celebrate her light. She is a woman who is able to fall in love with the magnificent possibilities within her. She is a woman who knows of the magic and mysterious places inside her, the sacred places that can nurture her soul and make her whole. She is a woman who...
March 2013
4 posts
Not getting what you want?
Been doing this exercise in therapy for years! So valuable!
By Christine Hassler:
If there is something in your life that you want and you are upset you don’t have it, I have good news for you. The good news is that you actually already have it…just perhaps not in the exact form you thought it should come in.
For example, if you are miserable in your job and searching for your...
“Life has a way of waking you up when your friends start getting cancer.”
– Joy Eggerichs
How do you and the people you love feel loved and...
Each of us has priorities and preferences when it comes to how we give and receive love. We make the mistake of expressing love to someone else according to our priorities and preferences. And we expect to receive that same kind of love back.
Don’t make ANY assumptions when it comes to love. (we all know what assuming does by now, right?)
The Five Love Languages says there are five ways...
Stop the Glorification of Busy
By Amy Ahlers:
It feels like everywhere I turn someone is “bragging” about how busy they are…rattling off their To-Do list with pride…almost beaming about how they have no free time, spare time or ME time.
When did BUSY become synonymous with VALUE?
When did feeling RUSHED become the only way to seem IMPORTANT?
When did being OVERWHELMED & OVER-SCHEDULED become...
February 2013
6 posts
Girlfriend, Don’t Eat the Cake! →
make the best out of your current conditions
From Christine Hassler (with edits):
Recently I heard a woman share about how she was with her friend’s seven-month-old baby boy and witnessed him experiencing frustration over his natural limitations. He was trying to communicate his needs but did not yet have the verbal skills to do so. He was attempting to feed himself but did not yet have the motor skills to do so. The reality of his...
What I Would Tell My Twenty-Something Self
By Christine Hassler:
There are many things I want to tell my 20-something self. Here are some of the things I would say to her:
Please don’t be so hard on yourself.
Be gentle.
Speak to yourself in more loving and encouraging ways. Your inner dialogue is the most powerful voice you hear. Turn down the volume of the critic so the voice of your inner knowing gets louder.
Smile. A...
HE Loves Me
There is a man that does love you. He loves you just the way you are. On your good days and your bad days. When you cook the most delicious meal and when you burn dinner because you forgot it was cooking. He loves you no matter what is going on in your life and; He will never do anything to hurt you.
“For God so loved the world that He gave His only son, that whosoever believes in Him would not...
You already have all the love you need
You see, the journey never ends. And it never really begins, either. As far as Love is concerned, each day is just another day along the path. There is no destination—no “place” you arrive at.
So, where you’re at right now isn’t inherently bad, even though it can sometimes feel that way.
Let’s take a deeper look…
You’re learning. You’re growing. You’re working on yourself. Right...
Follow your heart, your intuition
If your antennae is up and something inside of you is saying YES YES I want to listen to my intuition more but I don’t know how, here is an easy process to soothe the “I don’t know how” talk from your logical mind:
Make an intuitive date with yourself. Set aside some time when you turn everything off and go to a place where you will be undisturbed.
Light a candle and...
January 2013
4 posts
The Joneses are Overrated →
I’ve been thinking for a while about limiting my social media exposure since I’m so prone to comparing to others. This post spoke to me!
Going with the Flow
I want to be less controlling and more open to what God’s plan for me is.
From Christine Hassler:
We cannot have a new beginning without actually changing things. So here are some changes I suggest making to support you in not only being open to the flow, but making flow actually possible: Clear the clutter. Look around your physical space right now. Are there unpaid bills and unopened...
“You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and...”
– Buddha
November 2012
2 posts
A Desiring Meditation for the Fulfillment of Love
Anchoring into a very real sense of possibility for the fulfillment of love, as though all of Life were supporting you to have that which you most yearn for, allow yourself to drop down deeper and wider and into a space of pure listening and receptivity.
Begin to notice the desires you hold for love at the deepest level of your being, as though the desire itself were pleasurable and an act of...
life is hard sometimes
It’s no secret that life is hard sometimes. People we love die. People we love leave us. Jobs we need we lose. Dreams have to take a backseat because of illness or injury. In the last 7 years in particular, I have known my share of hard days. And there is something I wish someone had told me when this pain began years ago for me-when life is hard you have a choice. In the midst of struggle, we do...
October 2012
7 posts
Awakening Your Magnetic Power
The first step to getting on track to realize your own destiny in all areas of your life has to do with shifting from a way of creating that is strategic to one that is co-creative and magnetic.
Instead of seeking to get things from life or achieve goals externally, begin to tap into the source of creativity inside yourself.
You can do this by tuning into the deeper desires that you’re...
The Secret to Breaking Through Your Old Patterns
To truly liberate yourself from false beliefs and the patterns of the past, you will need to learn to build an empowered relationship with the “self” in your body.
You may have noticed by now that there’s a “self” in your mind (who has a lot of ideas about how things should be!) and there’s a “self” in your body (who primarily experiences life...
The Power to Create Those Things You Most Yearn...
How often have you said to yourself, “If only my circumstances were different, then I’d be able to have and create what I really want in my life…”
Or, “If only I had more money, more time, a better education, a better job, more support, more love, had a better figure… more (fill in the blank!)… then I’d be able to live the life that I was born to...
Things I've been thinking about...
Excerpts from Christine Hassler, ideas that have been on my mind and I’ve been talking about in therapy lately:
When working on yourself, remember to be in a place of neutral observation and see yourself with some perspective instead of intense judgment. When you are too “in it”, meaning you are indulging in your story, it is impossible to get the altitude you need to create...
“We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?...”
– Marianne Williamson
“As long as anyone believes that his ideal and purpose is outside him, that it is...”
– Erich Fromm
September 2012
1 post
Ever feel like you are backtracking?
By Christine Hassler
One of my pet peeves about the personal growth industry is the emphasis placed on consistently making only positive changes. The expectation is that over time as we do more work, we gradually and continuously “get better” (whatever “better” means). So when we feel like we are not moving forward and have even taken a few steps backwards, we doubt our...
August 2012
3 posts
“Rejection can really be a bummer. Whether it hits you in your professional or...”
– Email from Christine Hassler
“AT BEST all we have is influence. But the idea that we are not responsible for...”
– Mastin Kipp
“From Christine Hassler:
Last weekend I had the honor of standing up in one of...”
– Email from Christine Hassler
July 2012
2 posts
“Heavenly Father,
It feels a little silly or even vain to be asking you to...”
June 2012
2 posts
May 2012
1 post
“A break up is like a broken mirror. It is better to leave it broken than hurt...”
April 2012
8 posts
Put A Ring On It, by Bristol Palin
Have you ever heard of “shacking up?” Now, people describe living together with a more complimentary phrase: “a trial marriage.” And apparently, it’s all the rage:
Cohabitation in the United States has increased by more than 1,500 percent in the past half century. In 1960, about 450,000 unmarried couples lived together. Now the number is more than 7.5 million. The majority of young adults in...
Sophie Herbert: You Are Free
Your smile proves that you are not a colony, that you have sovereignty over yourself, that you are doing your best… Events carry us away, and we lose ourselves. Walking meditation helps us regain our sovereignty, our liberty as a human being. We walk with grace and dignity, like an emperor, like a lion. Each step is life. —Thich Nhat Hanh
Every few days, I share a favorite quote on my...
Yet suffering is part of our human condition. In Spe Salvi, Pope Benedict XVI states:
We can try to limit suffering, to fight against it, but we cannot eliminate it. It is when we attempt to avoid suffering by withdrawing from anything that might involve hurt, when we try to spare ourselves the effort and pain of pursuing truth, love, and goodness that we drift into a life of emptiness, in which...
The Flying Trapeze
Sometimes, I feel that my life is a series of trapeze swings. I’m either hanging on to a trapeze bar swinging along or, for a few moments, I’m hurdling across space between the trapeze bars.
Mostly, I spend my time hanging on for dear life to the trapeze bar of the moment. It carries me along a certain steady rate of swing and I have the feeling that I’m in control. I know most of the right...
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Things To Do before You Turn 30
It’s one month away!
Bold what you have done
01. Bought everyone in the bar a drink
02. Swam with dolphins 03. Climbed a mountain
04. Taken a Ferrari for a test drive
05. Been inside the Great Pyramid
06. Held a tarantula
07. Taken a candlelit bath with someone 08. Said “I love you” and meant it
09. Hugged a tree
10. Bungee jumped 11. Visited Paris 12. Watched a lightning storm at...
March 2012
7 posts
Health Benefits Of A Breakup
If there’s one thing we’ve all heard about breakups, it’s that the recovery process is going to be rough. That anticipation of rocky emotional terrain is a good reason why a lot of us choose to ignore red flags (“It’s no big deal if he doesn’t know who the vice-president is, right?”) or our gut feelings (“I can learn to be attracted to him, right?”) and stick with guys who just aren’t right for...
